Namaste (: I'm Jess I'm twenty and i'm a free spirit and an old soul. Fiancé to my best love. Mamabear to my Rebel Baby born october 26, 2013. We make up a very earthy family, embracing our wonderful, alternative lifestyle. I'm a non-conformist. Agnostic/ Atheist. A free thinker with a head full of ideas. Nature inspires me. I strive to make a simple, healthy, peaceful life for me, my love, and our little one. We live a bohemian life with simplicity and big meaning. I think differently and I'm proud of that. I'm on a journey to create myself and love myself and be who I know I am. I want to live away from the chains and rules of society and follow the road less traveled. I want to liberate myself, my loves, and others and be free. I am an artist. I write. I explore. I dream. I love. I'm forever chasing the wind. online
little things that actually make a difference to general life happiness:
•drinking lots of water
•eating fresh fruit
•thinking positively about yourself and others
•washing your face twice a day
•changing your sheets once a week
•hot baths with Epsom salts
•face masks using from things in your house
•sleeping more than 7 hours per night
•reorganizing your clothes, makeup, possessions etc
•keeping your living space clean
You guys wanted to believe from the get go that I had chosen his family over mine . That i just talk and talk and talk about you guys to his family . But i told you then and I’ll tell you now, that’s untrue . You guys all seem to talk and come up with how you imagine this scenario since you don’t feel you see Jackson or us enough. You think it’s because of some political reason of picking between families but in reality it is because we are living our own life. Tired and busy and doing our own stuff like normal adults do . I saw you, especially on more than just the holidays mom, but even if it had been just the holidays for you and the rest of the family that is still normal once people move out and get there own things going. Especially in the first year of starting a new family . And how you think that his family is where we spend all our time and they get Jackson 24/7 …. Let me tell you this . No one in his family other than his parents has ever had a chance to baby sit Jackson . Not even joes brother has watched Jackson yet…and we like all his family it just hasn’t happened yet . Everyone’s busy . And no ones freaking out about it over here and complaining and making joe feel like garbage because they just understand he’s living his life . But right from the start you guys have been nagging me and complaining at me and telling me how so much doesn’t suit you . It irritates me to this day how ungrateful you all were to how hard I was trying to be around in the beginning. So I said I’m not going to bust my back for you guys who don’t even appreciate it and just want more more more . And yeah I get that you love Jackson and want to see him but you seem to expect to be his most dominant family . And I mean by that , you complain and complain about not getting him enough and assuming joes family gets him more but the reality is the opposite . And you are grandma but everyone else is great aunts and uncles . And I don’t say that meaning great aunts and uncles don’t matter but Not even his own first uncle has watched him yet . So the whole wicked awful thing you think I’m doing isn’t actually happening . And also his parents said to me at the begging about not getting off on good terms with you guys but they wanted me to know they would never bad talk any of my family and they don’t. I don’t come here to talk about you all. And they don’t either . They also HATE Natalie’s mom and they don’t talk about her either. Even when Natalie comes around pissed at her trying to talk bad about her they don’t. Sooooo I’m just saying the entire illusion you guys came up with is wrong . We are just adjusting and enjoying living together and starting our life together. And you are all disappointed because you expected far too much . I am not being mean or insensitive . It is the truth. You expected nothing to change when I had a baby and moved out. And since things did you blame it on some wicked third party but it’s just life. And did remove my self slightly but only to avoid being guilted about not being around and what not knowing your assuming I’m being wicked and what not. The stress of that alone made me never want to come around. Reflect on other relationships between new parents and their families . We do what works for us.
sometimes I look at my life through third-person narration and get so fucking unbelievably sad
That’s a terrible thing to do !
my mom taught me the therapeutic power of cleaning. open all the windows. throw out the old. wipe down the entire house. burn some incense. roast some coffee. then rest. that way the tears from last night don’t feel as heavy.
This is so accurate. At school, we literally have children who will watch our facial expressions to see if them falling is as bad as they think it might be.
CORRECT CHILD INJURY PROCEDURE:
- do not react. at the most, maybe wince and go “ooooh”
- go over to the child to assess panic level and severity of injury
- if they’re like, dying, remain calm, but they’re probably not.
- look them in the eye and ask, “you okay?” they will nod. possibly all teary-eyed. then ask, “are we gonna need to cut it off?”
- the child is thrown off. if they giggle, you’re in the money. if they do not, put a bandaid on and do some sympathetic patting. they are probably a little teary. let the sad little bug sit out for a minute. they will quickly get bored.
- works every time
"sad little bug" is the cutest and most accurate term ive heard used to describe a child because sometimes bugs are kinda super cute sometimes bugs are really fucking annoying and sometimes bugs are downright TERRIFYING
talk to kids like they’re people and take full interest in what they’re saying because they’re forming their personalities and it’s really vital that they know that their opinions are important and what they have to say deserves validation and respect. so when your three year old niece tells you that dragons don’t like cupcakes because the color blue is a spoon you better nod your head and ask her to explain more about that.